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4 Affirmations for Black Folks with Natural Hair

6 Sep

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Filled with frustration in my inability to rake through and put my short, 4C hair into a simple afro puff, I ran into the kitchen, grabbed the scissors from the cabinet, and snipped off a chunk of my poorly styled hairdo.

Immediately, I regretted it.

It didn’t seem like a big deal to my family and friends because I’d chopped my hair off five years previous and worn a buzz cut for about three years. But I was having a Next Top Model Makeover Meltdown and sobbed as I switched from scissors to electric clippers, shaving my head to a nearly-bald state.

Though I was previously working on learning to style and take proper care of my hair, frustration got the best of me.

For five days, I avoided mirrors – partially because I didn’t like the way it looked and partially because I couldn’t believe I’d gotten that upset about not being able to style my hair.

Also, I knew that shaving it for the second time meant I was once again waving the white flag on my quest for the perfect afro. I had been two years deep in the regrowth process and my hair had grown rapidly in that time. I was nearly bald, again.

Now, a few weeks out, I’ve started growing it out again. And I’m starting to love all the things my hair can do, even in its super short state.

As naturals, we know that black hair can be a fun, sensitive, and complicated issue.

Some of us spend hours in the mirror or at the salon/barbershop to get some of the coolest, gravity-defying, head-turning, stylish looks.

Others have had countless debates on natural vs. not-natural hair. Others have had tireless (and often fruitless) discussions with our non-black associates on why it is not okay for white celebrities, fashion designers, and beauty magazines to appropriate our styles.

Despite the vast information on the internet on why our hair is both personal and political, we seem to be in a constant battle with people and institutions that feel the need to insert their opinions, stating that our hair is not tame enough or professional enough for their liking. 

For this reason, we sometimes need a few reminders of just how cool our hair is.

Try out these four affirmations on the days when you’re not feeling great about your hair.

Read more at Everyday Feminism. 

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4 Natural hair mistakes you learned from your mother

28 Sep

GIF OopsSix years ago, I shaved my head bald and didn’t look back. I rocked that buzz cut until a few months ago when I wanted to mix things up and grow my hair back. I decided to go 100 percent no-heat natural this time rather than the press and curl I’d worn in high school and part of college. Yet after several years without hair, I didn’t quite know how to take care of the new growth. I went back to methods from the ’90s that I’d learned from my mother. Luckily, friends helped me quickly realize my main mistakes.

Mother always knows best… but you may have to school her on a few natural hair faux pas.

1. Your mama’s hair grease isn’t always your friend

Remember when super thick hair greases like Dax and Blue Magic were your mother’s go-to product for greasing your scalp? Read more…

Hey Fam! I published this article on Blavity.com, so check out the full list and see what hair mistakes you’ve been making.

5 Reasons Black People are So Bomb in 2015

31 Mar

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Black people, have I told you I loved you lately?

Not a day goes by where I am not enamored by Black people’s all-around excellence. Whether I’m walking down the street, in the grocery store, or scrolling down my Twitter feed, my day is saturated with Black beauty, intellect, humor, activism, and creativity.

So let’s take a look at the top 5 reasons Black people are so bomb in 2015:

1. Black Beauty

Did you all see all the stunning photos from #BlackOutDay last month? Black folks seem to have every damn thing #OnFleek.

Black girls are stepping out with the most beautiful hair styles. The natural hair community is thriving, with baddies wearing faux locs, box braids, Senegalese twists, and afros of all shapes and colors. And the girls with weaves are gorgeous too (don’t get it twisted).

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And I don’t know if it’s because I live in LA, but the Black men I’ve been crossing paths with are hotties.

Black is beautiful—if you haven’t already noticed.

White folks (Ahem, Iggy, Kylie, etc.) would like to know what Black people are drinking to make us so freaking stunning. They’re probably somewhere listening to “The Blacker the Berry” hoping Kendrick left some breadcrumbs to the path to flawlessness.

2. Black Music

To Pimp a Butterfly AWWSpeaking of Kendrick, our artists are killin it (well, some of them). Hip hop fans are still enjoying the newly released To Pimp a Butterfly and entertaining arguments about whether or not Forest Hills Drive was better. Meanwhile, J. Cole’s new “G.O.M.D.” video was pretty fitting for the times, considering our blactivists and allies are fighting back against white supremacy.

Also, did you hear that the Misseducation of Lauryn Hill will be added to the Library of Congress?

The Library of Congress stated that the album is “a work of honesty in which Hill explores her feelings on topics that included the deep wonder of pregnancy, the pitfalls of modern relationships and the experience of the sacred. The album effortlessly fuses soul, rhythm and blues, rap and reggae. Hill’s vocal range, smooth clear highs and vibrato are stunning.”

Anybody want to disagree?

3. Black Humor + Intellect

I have to give a shout out to Black Twitter. Y’all always have me snapping my fingers, laughing my ass off, shouting hallelujah, and gaining serious insights. Black folks online are very good at telling you about yourself and making it hilarious. Just ask the celebrities that were made fun of in #BlackCelebsBeLike. Black Twitter and Black Tumblr  preach so much truth and demand our nation to “do better.” Hashtags like #BlackLivesMatter #BlackCelebsBeLike, #CNNBeLike, #NotJustSAE, #OverwhelmingBlackness and #NotJustUVA bring about necessary conversations.

Exhibit A:

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Exhibit B:

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And this jewel had me dying:

 

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Are your Twitter and Tumblr feeds not poppin like mine? Follow the people I’m following.

Additionally, we have our culture critics and intellectuals holding it down: Marc Lamont Hill, Melissa Harris Perry, Franchesca Ramsey, Jessica R. Williams, just to name a few. The knowledge that comes out of their mouths can and is changing our world.

4. Blactivist Protests
I know you don’t think those #BlackLivesMatter protests are a thing of the past. Nope—activists are still demonstrating, demanding justice, and not taking shit from our nation’s white supremacist mindset. Mainstream media may not be broadcasting it anymore, but we already know from those #CNNBeLike tweets that mainstream news outlets ain’t shit.

It’s been several months after the initial protest in Ferguson and I’m still getting emails and Facebook notifications about upcoming protests and small groups of activist meeting with elected officials. It’s inspiring to see people taking care of business.

5. Black Future
Of course, there is much more Black Excellence to come.

Things I’m looking forward to Black people doing:

  • Toni Morrison’s new novel God Help the Child
  • Brandy playing the role of Roxie Hart in the Broadway show Chicago
  • Michael B. Jordan playing the Human Torch in Fantastic Four
  • Anything Mo’ne Davis has coming out
  • The tons of black 2015 graduates making moves

Black people—you are bombAF.

Your Black Excellence encourages me on a daily basis. Thank you for being so inspirational.

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