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How to Manage Your Emotions After Hearing About Yet Another Case of Police Brutality

5 Aug

Every day it seems another black person is killed by the police. We all know the statistics. We’ve all seen the video footage. We’ve all felt an increasing outrage at the fact that black people live in danger from a system that neither protects nor serves.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve driven to work pissed off about another case of police brutality. And the only thing I can do about my anger in that very moment is crank up Kendrick Lamar as I roll into the parking lot not giving a single fuck about who hears the blaring music. Then I stroll into the office and pray to God no one asks me how I feel about the incident before I’ve calmed down with my morning tea.

But like protestors quoting one of Kedrick’s latests: “We gon be alright.”

To help manage your anger, fatigue and other feelings about current race relations in the U.S., these two creative examples of black excellence have a few solutions (that also happen to be funny):

Calling in Black

Racial Discussion Fatigue Syndrome

My Black Life Matters Too: Acknowledging Police Brutality Against Black Women

21 May


By De La Fro

Eric Garner. Tamir Rice. Mike Brown. Sean Bell. Oscar Grant. All names that ring a bell for most, right? But what about Sheneque Proctor? Aiyana Stanley-Jones? Rekia Boyd? Tarika Wilson?

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Oftentimes throughout the discussion of state violence, black men are centered, leaving black women almost completely erased from the narrative. People will say “Every 28 hours a black man is killed by a police officer” when really it’s “Every 28 hours a black person is killed by a police officer.” Most people fail to acknowledge or even are unaware of police brutality against black women. Not only are black women physically assaulted and murdered by police officers, black women have been sexually assaulted by police officers as well.

Even when police brutality toward black women is brought up the response is usually apathetic or watered down empathy. I’ve seen people, including black men, say that that’s taking away from the issue at hand. I’ve even seen black men say that focusing on black women being victims of state violence is “divisive” and there’s “no need to separate ourselves.” They see discussing police brutality against black women as a separate conversation instead of a part of the conversation. It’s amazing to me that if an issue isn’t centering black men, it’s almost instinctively written off as a “distraction” or “divisive” as if black men are the only black people that make up the black community. As if black men are the only ones affected by racism in the black community. As if other black people of the black community are not as valuable as cis-heterosexual black men.

There was a rally held for Rekia Boyd in New York City earlier this year and only about 50 people showed up; and that’s 50 compared to a couple hundreds, thousands, and millions worldwide who show up for black male victims. There have also been rallies held for black female victims in general and not only did few people come, few black men were in attendance too.

Black female activists feel the need to focus on black female victims of police brutality because time and time again, these victims are ignored from the overall “Black Lives Matter” narrative. There wouldn’t be a need to create a subset of the Black Lives Matter movement (Black Women’s Lives Matter) if black women’s lives were acknowledged just as much in the first place. This is not “separating” ourselves from the overall movement. This is simply us saying, “No, our black lives matter TOO.”

You can say black lives matter all you want but if you don’t believe ALL black lives matter then you’re saying “Only cis-heterosexual black men’s lives matter.” All we want is inclusivity in our own community. We just want you to fight for us like we’ve been fighting for you. That’s all.

So when you lift up Tamir, don’t forget to lift up Aiyana. When you lift up Eric, don’t forget to lift up Sheneque. When you lift up Sean, don’t forget to lift up Rekia. If you say you’re about black power then that means you have to be here for ALL black people, not just cishet black men. That means you fight for black women, black children, black elderly, and black LGBTQ. You fight for ALL of us. We can’t allow these black women’s memories to get lost along the way. Their black lives matter too.


In conjunction with Black Lives Matter’s national call to recognize the black women’s lives and trans lives lost at the hands of the police today, May 21st, this post does what many protest don’t: #SayHerName

Guest author bio: Candace Sinclaire, also known as De La Fro, is an undergrad student at UNC Greensboro, where she’s studying film. She’s a spoken word poet and mans her own film collective “Rev Films.” She also manages own blog where she shares her love for natural hair, fashion, and socio-political topics.

Twitter – @delafro_
Photo credit: De La Fro
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7 Good Reasons White People Should be Allowed to Use the N-Word

5 May

The other day, I overheard a conversation at work between two older white men, one complaining about how white people cannot use the N-word. He defended the white SAE frat boys, comparing them to the black Kentucky ball player who said the N-word under his breath.

My superior didn’t give any clear reason as to why white people should be allowed to use it—he just kept whining, “It’s just not fair.”

So I thought about his non-argument, and came to these 7 reasons as to why white people should be allowed to use the N-word.

1. Because life has never been kind white folks.

I wonder if police ever pull them over because of all of those damaging white stereotypes.

2. Because they never get credit for anything trendy.

Maybe those ancient Egyptians stole their braids and brown skin from ancient peoples of Euro descent too.

3. Because appropriating their culture is so last century.

#BlackOutDay #MelaninMonday #MelaninOnFleek…. #SunBurnOnFleek…said no one ever.

4. Because they don’t have control over the English language.

Twerk, On fleek. Yaaaas. Bae, Turnt…. Fetch. Gretchen, stop trying to make Fetch happen. It’s not going to happen.

5. Because they want to be able to sing along with all the Black rappers.


No one understands what Iggy is saying, and Macklemore’s been pretty quiet…so what else will they rap along to in the meantime?

6. Because they’ve been using the word for hundreds of years and it isn’t fair that they have to stop now.

And, I guess, since our country has always been about about fairness, we might want to consider this for a few seconds.

7. Because America is becoming more PC and white people are getting the short end of the stick.


I mean damn, ya’ll can’t say the N-Word, can’t wear blackface, and can’t have white-only sections anymore. Your whole world feels uprooted, doesn’t it?

I’m genuinely convinced that I will one day meet a white person who will burst into tears while trying to convince me that they should be able to say the N word…

Do white tears season food well? Maybe I can sprinkle a few on my collard greens—not that they aren’t bomb already.

Photo credits (in order): Imgflip.com, Stylite.com, Iammelanin.com, Themarysue.com, Funny or Die, Memegenerator.net, and Whitepeoplearedisgusting.tumblr.com.

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